maro Lip Schtick: You tell me - #9p

Tuesday, October 04, 2005

You tell me - #9

The OU "suicide bomber" (although whether or not it was an actual suicide remains to be seen) has gotten me to think.

Not because I have a desire to off myself ... but what exactly is it that makes a person think that's the only solution?

So often we hear that suicide is an act of cowardice. That nothing can be so bad that you can't get through.

But on the flip side of the coin, I would think that the actual act of killing oneself must take balls the size of Texas.

And since my balls are only the size of Rhode Island, I don't think it'll ever be an issue for me.

So, I get to the question at hand.


An act of major cowardice? Or "Wow, that took some mighty huge cahones."

You tell me.


Anonymous The Incurable Insomniac said...

I'm probably biased on this one, but I have a pretty strong opinion.

I was the survivor of a spouse who committed suicide when our baby was only 2 weeks old. I was 18. The number it did on my head --as well as the number it continues to do on our son's head-- is monumental.

I don't think disappearing into death is brave, I think confronting life is, and I think leaving families and friends to clean up the lifelong mess is as cowardly as it gets.

8:35 PM  
Blogger Laurie said...

Two words: selfish and cowardly.

7:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Some people who commit suicide are relatively mentally healthy, and those people may in fact be actively cowardly or selfish. I cannot see how they are "brave," unless faced with one of those Hollywood-type situations in which their deaths will save the world, the universe or whatever.
But some people, who suffer from clinical depression, have a diagnosed lack of certain brain chemicals that let their minds function like everyday folks' minds do. They often reach the point where they literally believe they and the world will be better off without them. They feel that their loved ones are better released from the burden of dealing with them, and that those people's sadness will be outweighed by the release. Their brains simply won't function in a way that would let them see the situation in any other light.
Just as a diagnosed schizophrenic knows the voices are real, the clinical depressive knows nothing will ever get better, only worse. Objectively they're both wrong, but their subjective distorted reality overpowers everything else.
Neither of the labels under consideration -- "brave" or "cowardly" -- would seem to apply in those situations.

12:09 PM  
Anonymous Brett Thomasson said...

Sorry. I didn't mean to make the above comment anonymously, but I hit the wrong button.

12:14 PM  
Blogger LilRed said...

It's no problem, Brett. Your answer is quite interesting. As a person who has had friends and family members who have committed suicide, I can completely understand each point you made.

12:19 PM  
Anonymous Brett Thomasson said...

I've been fortunate to have not faced a suicide directly, although I have a number of family members who suffer from depression. My line of work (ministry) brings me into contact with people who have these issues as well. Ain't easy, that's for sure.

9:24 PM  

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